Why I Fired My Trainer

Back in the frigid month of October, I had reached a milestone in my fitness journey! I had completed one whole year of working out with the assistance of a personal trainer. I can clearly remember the reason I sought out a personal trainer in the first place: I had committed to working out consistently for two months and was not seeing the results I presumed I would. Naturally, I became discouraged and my personal trainer must have been a mind reader because he approached me one evening about a trial session. Ever since that I evening, I decided to incorporate his services into my budget. Exactly one year later, I re-evaluated that decision and conluded that his services were no longer needed and I have composed a list of the top five reasons why.


5. He equipped me with all that I needed.

Within that year, my trainer had taken me through a large variety of workouts; from calisthenics, to machine work as well as free weighted exercises, I had learned a lot about the parameters of my body and all that it could handle. I learned of the importance of exercising various muscles. Plus I liked the way my body was starting to look as a result of my work. Because he taught me all of these things, I felt capable of incorporating these exercises into my routine with or without his presence. Additionally, I used social media as a means to learn other exercises that would shock my muscles and leave me with the same sore feelings that his workouts would, long after I had exited the gym.

4. He tried it!

Towards the end of our run, my trainer started to flirt with me, which made me feel uncomfortable for two reasons: he was/is approximately twice my age (vomit in my mouth); I was paying him for a service. He had one job and that was to provide me with that service. Once his feelings began to interfere with his work, I knew I had a decision to make so that he had no opportunity to blur the lines.

3. He wasn’t sensitive to my needs.

There were plenty of times where I told him what I intended on working on for the day, and he rejected what I said so that he could do what he wanted. While the workouts were good, they were not what I asked for. Additionally, when I began my new job in September, I had stopped attending the gym as frequently because of timing. As a result, I was not able to push myself, as I had been able to all along. He would push me beyond what I knew my body was able to handle at the time. I learned that I could not trust someone to be good to my body like I can.

2. He was just a trainer.

As an educator there is an extremely valuable lesson that I have learned: there are two types of “teachers,” one who has a wealth of information and one who is skilled in imparting information. For me, it is not enough to possess information. Even more than that, it is not enough to be one or two dimensional in the amount of information possessed. In the case of my trainer, I feel as if he knew a great deal about working out. He could run off a laundry list of exercises for me to try. What he was not well versed in, however, is the dynamics of the body and the actual science behind its function. Moreover, he could not, completely, educate me on nutrition.  So when I say “he is just a trainer,” I mean he knows what works for him. He knows how to train others similar to the way he trains himself.

1.    I needed to save some coins.

In strategizing on how to manage my money better, I decided that I needed to cut back somewhere. Being that I felt content in all of the knowledge I gained about physical fitness, it felt easier to eliminate this from my list of expenses.

In closing, the biggest tip I have for anyone seeking a personal trainer is to ensure that they are more than their looks. A personal trainer should be able to educate, push and inspire you through their lifestyle. You should seek someone who has more knowledge than you and who understands the responsibilty associated with the job.